Self Help

“Good enough is the new perfect.” ~Becky Beauprie Gillespie I stand accused of being a perfectionist. My plea? Not guilty, of course! “I’m not perfect enough to be a perfectionist!” I counter. But the evidence is stacked against me. Ladies and gentlemen of the jury, Exhibit A: My first year at University, our mid-term examination in literature. There … Read more

“Those who are free of resentful thoughts surely find peace.” ~Buddha Life is short. Time spent feeling angry or resentful about things that happened or didn’t happen is time squandered. What’s that? You think those feelings motivate you and help you get things done? Hogwash! If you’re honest with yourself, you realize getting things done isn’t the … Read more

“Lean too much on other people’s approval and it becomes a bed of thorns.” ~Tehyi Hsieh Let’s be honest with each other. You’re a people-pleaser So am I. And so is Oprah, the President of The United States, and the guy next door. We’re all people-pleasers to some extent. And that’s okay. Wanting to be approved of—and loved—is … Read more

“If only we’d stop trying to be happy we’d have a pretty good time.” ~Edith Wharton I have a question for you. What would you be willing to sacrifice to be happy? Would you be happy to let go of Netflix? Alcohol? Pizza? Would you be willing to take up a monastic life? Every single … Read more

“Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present.” ~Jim Rohn Sometimes I feel like I’ve spent the better part of my life chasing after happiness. It always seemed like happiness stayed just a tad bit out of my grasp—somewhere in the future that I could always … Read more

“It isn’t what happens to us that causes us to suffer; it’s what we say to ourselves about what happens.” ~Pema Chodron You know that foreboding fear we all have—that something will go terribly wrong and life will never be the same again? Mine is that something will happen to our daughter. She is our … Read more

Breaking up with a toxic person can sometimes feel like your world has crumbled in on itself. While you will eventually feel free from their clutches, it takes a while to get there. Because of something called trauma bonding, abusive relationships can be incredibly hard to leave. Over time the abuser — especially if they are … Read more

Most of us want to be a better person—whether at home, in the office, or just when we’re out running errands. The problem is where exactly do you start? I realized a couple years ago that I was a jerk at times to people I worked with and to people I feel I couldn’t get … Read more

So many of us feel a scarcity of time: we feel rushed, like there’s not enough time to do everything, always behind, never feeling like we’re doing enough. This problem is called “time scarcity,” and it’s one of the most common stresses in our society. So how do we deal with this? Unfortunately, there’s no … Read more

When we’re feeling some inner resistance to a task, we tend to put it off — check email, social media, our favorite distractions or busywork. We all do it. We often turn it into something bad: I suck for not being disciplined, I suck for not being able to focus, I’m not strong enough, etc … Read more